Welcome to ZipdamWrites A Curated Collection of My Writings and Insights

 Understanding Identity: Becoming Who We Truly Are “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” — Aristotle Identity is one of life’s most profound journeys the continuous exploration of who we are, why we are, and what we stand for. It’s not just about our names, origins, or professions; it’s about our essence, the values, beliefs, and passions that shape our existence. From childhood to adulthood, society, family, and experiences all influence how we see ourselves. We often wear many labels student, leader, creative, parent, friend  yet none of these fully capture the depth of our true identity. Beyond titles and appearances lies our authentic self, the version of us that exists when the world is silent and we are alone with our thoughts. Discovering identity requires honesty. It means asking ourselves tough questions: Who am I beyond people’s expectations? What makes me feel alive? What values define my decisions? In a world that constantly tells us who to be, choosin...

 No one truly prepares you for adulthood. You just wake up one day and realize you’ve become the person people look up to, even when you’re still figuring things out yourself. Adulthood teaches you that success isn’t always loud. It’s in showing up when you’re tired. It’s in learning to balance dreams with discipline. It’s in paying your bills, chasing your purpose, and still finding reasons to smile through the chaos. You start to understand that not every day will feel like a win but every effort counts. You learn to trust your journey, even when the road feels uncertain. You begin to appreciate growth in silence, because not every progress needs an audience. If you’re in that phase where life feels heavy, yet you keep pushing, pause and be proud of yourself. You’re doing more than you think. You’re growing, evolving, and building something that your future self will thank you for. Adulthood isn’t easy, but it’s proof that you’re becoming stronger, wiser, and unstoppable.  K...

 When Love and Leadership Feel One-Sided: Lessons on Reciprocity There’s a certain kind of pain that comes from giving your best, your time, energy, loyalty, and love only to realize it isn’t being reciprocated. It’s a feeling that transcends relationships; it’s something we experience in friendships, workplaces, partnerships, and even leadership roles. As women, professionals, and leaders, we’re often taught to keep giving to stay strong, to nurture, to serve. But what happens when that giving becomes draining? When you find yourself constantly pouring into spaces and people who never pour back? Being in a one-sided relationship whether romantic or professional can break your spirit if you’re not careful. You start to feel unseen, unheard, and undervalued. Yet, it’s in these moments that we learn one of life’s hardest and most empowering lessons: reciprocity matters. In leadership and in love, energy should flow both ways. Mutual respect, effort, and appreciation are not luxuries;...